Are They The One?

With the Latest Buzz being the queen herself, Rihanna finally being booed up with a mystery guy, everybody is trying to find a man and fast. Finding your significant other is no longer a simple encounter; Technology has forever changed the way we date in this generation in a negative way. With popular apps such as Instagram, Twitter, and SnapChat we are always kept on our toes wondering who our significant other is communicating with or seeing. We initially loose first dates, and just getting to know each other face-to-face. Instead, we get to know each other through a text message that pops up on a screen. As if Dating isn’t already complicated enough, dating as a millennial is pretty close to impossible. Questions such as: “Are you guys dating or talking?” “What are we?” or “Why is he liking another girl’s pictures on Instagram?” are always good conversation starters. Being between the age gap of 20-24 you still have time to explore what you want in a person, and what you’re looking for. We look around and see wedding proposals and baby announcements everywhere and come to realize that, this is normal in life now. However, that does not mean waste your time on someone who isn’t right for you. Often times we are so quick to dismiss all the red flags and settle for someone who may not be worthy of us because, of that fear of being alone. We entertain feelings that are there to fill a void that might be missing. But at the end of the day who are you really hurting? And whose time are you really wasting that matters?

Bring out the best in each other. Dating your significant other should feel like an adventure and home all at once. It can’t be excitement and butterflies all the time, but they should do a pretty good job in assuring that those feelings don’t stop.

Don’t stay stuck in the past. Easier said than done, we understand this leap of moving on from your past relationship is difficult. If the time is right and your significant other is not the one, there is no point in holding on to that person. Dating someone else will be an entirely new experience, so don’t compare the person you’re dating to past relationships.

Dating or Talking? The famous question, and what does it mean? Well for starters, dating is talking and vice-versa. There is no difference, and it is only really a question due to the millennial generation. But if you’re talking to someone, then consider it dating as well.
Don’t let your relationship define and consume you. Don’t lose yourself trying to find someone else. You were an individual before meeting your significant other and can continue to be your authentic self throughout. In a mature adult relationship, there are responsibilities to attend to. If the person you’re dating seems to be controlling, get out of that relationship as soon as possible.

Keep your standards. When we are single, we may spend a lot of time pining for a relationship. We may become influenced by the perception of how great it may seem to be in a relationship because social media makes it look ideal. We may settle for something or someone who isn’t for us. So, in other words, keep your standards and enjoy your alone time because it’s something we don’t appreciate until its gone.

Decoding Texts. Unfortunately, this is an issue of today’s day and age. We stand at a unique time in history where a text such as “we’re just chillin” can mean plenty of things. Texts can be super difficult to discern a tone, thank god for group chats and screenshots.

You ditch your friends for your significant other. We have all been there, where we get too caught up with our new “bae”. Friends become the second factor, and it may not seem like a concern at the time because we’re happy and that’s all that should matter, right? But friends will be there long after that person is gone.
Don’t be blinded by love. Listen to your friends when they tell you the guy or girl you’re dating is a jerk. Sometimes we fail to see they are not the one for us, but everyone around us can.

If it’s meant to be, it will be. With that being said, don’t chase someone who is not willing to chase you. With millions of people in this world, someone else will do what they couldn’t. The effort is the key in a relationship; 50/40 does not add up to 100. Ask yourself what do they do for you?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dating is not easy, and we are the first generation wild enough to add social media to the mix. All within trial and error, we’ll get it right one day. Luckily, being in our 20’s gives us time to progress and find the perfect one.